As far as snoring goes, I suggest you just try to fall asleep first and snore louder than your partner. Sue Crawley

Simple – separate houses. This means we can indulge our irritating habits; mine being a love of being curled up by 8.30pm with a book and a mug of hot milk, his being to sit up until stupid o'clock watching hideous horror films. Then, when we want to, we can share a bed (his or mine) and enjoy all the glorious benefits of coupledom. Janet

In Denmark, double duvets are rare and I have always used two single duvets while living in the UK. It is much more comfortable sharing a bed this way. It avoids the problem of someone hogging the duvet, disagreements about how warm the duvet should be and allows for wriggling without disturbing the other. My partner takes up 70% of the bedspace, but wrapped up tightly in my own duvet it doesn't really disturb me. Small children can climb under the duvet of one person allowing the other to get some sleep. If you argue, take your duvet and sleep on the sofa. Rikke Osterlund

After many years on our own, we sold our individual houses and bought one together. We each have a bedroom complete with double bed so as to have our independence and space, but keeping romance alive. Signs such as a closed door, door ajar, door half-open or completely open all have different meanings ... There are no disputes about whether the windows are open or shut or the electric blanket is on or off, and if we are not feeling too good, we can get a good night's sleep without disturbance. We are in our 60s and life is brilliant. Hazel Massey

I sometimes snore when I lie on my back, so my partner makes me attach a golf ball to my back to stop me from rolling over in the night ... Stephanie Miller

"Pillow fortress" – five ridiculously fluffy and expensive pillows arranged in a high-walled semicircle in which I nest while my partner lies almost flat on his face outside the "walls". As well as allowing me to feel like a princess, it muffles the sound of him talking in his sleep and snoring, and protects him from my wriggling. It's like a tiny piece of privacy even in a shared bed. We are so much happier and rested now, and this arrangement lends itself to chivalry; on days when I arrive in the bedroom exhausted to find the fortress has been made for me, I feel spoilt indeed. Lauren Jones

I married a 6ft 4in Scot, who is part Aberdeen-Angus, part Irish wolfhound in his sleeping habits, and ideally suited to sleeping on a stone floor with a scattering of hay. I, myself, am a wee slip of an Irish pixie, genetically predisposed to heather beds. In the matrimonial bed, each nocturnal fart, bark or scratching of his hind quarters was causing mattress-tsunamis conducive to divorce instead of sleep. The solution? A super-king-size divan base with separate single mattresses (one hard, one soft), a unifying fitted sheet – and earplugs, of course. Dee Armstrong

I need a lot of sleep, my partner less so. After years of wearing a facemask and grabbing all the covers to cocoon myself against the light while he reads, we have made two changes that have transformed everything. I'm afraid we had to throw money at the problem. But it was dosh well spent. First, we bought a king-size duvet. No more cover tussle because there is just so much of it. Second, I bought him an e-reader with a backlight. He can read without disturbing me, and I can sleep with a breeze blowing on my eyelids. Emily Marbach

In desperation one night I asked my husband, who snores like a train, to sleep in our repeatedly waking baby's room ... I thought I might get some extra zzz before the usual night feeds. Imagine my surprise in the morning to find it was gone 7am – the soporific effect of the loud snoring made my baby sleep through the night for the first time! Sophie Lin

Fall asleep "unintentionally" on the sofa at every opportunity. Francis