I am rehearsing for a fringe production but much of the enjoyment is lost, owing to my chronic stage fright. I have acted for more than 30 years, but as I get older – I am now in my late 40s – this seems to be getting much worse. I now even get butterflies in my stomach, and shaking legs and hands before rehearsals. I love acting but I am worried this fear will take over and eventually stop me performing. Any help would be gratefully received.

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