My brother and two close friends are suffering from long term mental illnesses. I want to be supportive but the demands are starting to affect my own health. I am juggling my toddler and new baby with phone calls and emails from the three of them; if I don't respond I am 'ignoring them' (in their words). I feel as if there's just not enough of me to go around and I'm emotionally exhausted trying to be too many things to so many people. How do I withdraw, to focus on my own family, without being hurtful?

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