My life seems entirely disconnected from reality, despite a busy family life with a partner and children and interesting work. Everyone says I need to get in touch with my feelings, but I don’t feel that I have any. Recent attempts at mindfulness haven’t helped and I live my life through constant analysis. Why am I like this? My theories include an inability to relate to people and possible Asperger’s. Another is early encounters that might count as sexual abuse. A third is lifelong use of pornography, leading to desensitisation. Is simple acceptance the way to go? Or should I explore this with my family?

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